因为一个朋友的极力推荐，带来我们家的二小琴童去“观摩”一位不认识的小提琴老师的课。
背景：二小琴童一直在suzuki的小提琴学校学琴，跟的是一个从澳大利亚来的年轻女教师。J学了两年半了，book2都还没有完成。和很多中国家庭的小孩比，实在是慢得多。所以当妈的便动了心，想去看看国内来的并在英国镀过金的老师的教学水平。据称该老师在城中颇有些名气。（据说她同时在四间学校授课，可见“众望”所归。）
学琴是在老师的住的apartment中。老师因为车子出了问题，从她教课的学校赶来，迟到了20分钟。第一个感觉是年轻，二是她的英文词汇和发音都很勉强。开始上课了，用的是英文，但是基本上是用示范来教的，根本无法讲清楚技巧(faster, heavy是用的最多的词。)后来，J也表演了一下，P把琴拿出来了，站到老师面前时又拒绝表演。老师也没有对此有什么有价值的评论。
回到家中，我们都不喜欢这个老师。问小孩子，先是J装模作样的评论了一番他的三个老师们的长短，结论是没有结论（J向来如此，什么都我所谓的，除非他非常反感的）。P直截了当“她的声音不好听，我不喜欢。”“什么声音？”“说话的声音。”好嘛，这也是理由。J来劲了，说“her face is scary.”指的是她的化妆。
说到底，他们还是喜欢第一个老师，不过J说“may be I just get used to her.”
其实，主要是几个原因：
1.虽然老师的技巧我们没有什么问题，但是她的中国式教学方法-不与学生进行双向沟通，是最大的concern.
2.英文。
3.觉得她对小孩子（相对比较活泼调皮的）没有什么办法。“三好学生”才是她的授课对象。
4.时间观念不强。结束后又与我们闲聊了好一阵，而下一个学生只好等着。
5.个人生活方面。
6.她的琴也没有给我留下太深的印象。
这又使我再一次考虑到底要小孩子学琴是为什么？
如果是为考级，为升学，应该选择这样的老师，才能尽快达到目标。
培养他们成为音乐家么？似乎也不可能。尽管老师们都说J有音乐天赋，但是做父母的我们和祖父母们可是和音乐没有沾一点点的边。话又说回来，如果有一天J说他要成为音乐家，我们恐怕是有些失望的。
2007年10月4日
Sony A100 使用心得5
从国内买了一套摄影灯（不含灯泡）和反光伞，以及一块背景布。原本打算拍室内人像用的，结果却大失所望。
反光伞的效果太差，主要是涂层。摄影灯决不能当作主灯使用，瓦数和灯头，电线等都不合。另外，二者的材质和做工都非常差。背景布却因为要运输的缘故有折痕，并且无法熨平。
反光伞的效果太差，主要是涂层。摄影灯决不能当作主灯使用，瓦数和灯头，电线等都不合。另外，二者的材质和做工都非常差。背景布却因为要运输的缘故有折痕，并且无法熨平。
练琴 与 谎言
昨天J练习book2最后一首歌时，居然自行偷工减料，将一首近四分钟的曲子缩到一分多钟。我便让他听CD，再拉，还是如此。要求他跟着CD拉。完了後，问他，有什么不同。答曰，没有。再问，再答，没有。直到我指出他漏掉的部分，这才承认。 让他去了timeout。完了他说"sorry dad, i'm lying."接着拉琴。
睡觉的时候，告诉他我认为他的撒谎是一件严重的事，他自己去和神祷告，想想以后怎么办。这小子居然在我说完的时候问我一个毫不相关的英文单词的含义。还说"will back to thinking after that"。把我气得当时让他披上衣服去洗手间站着。
今天一早，告诉我，罚他一个星期不玩电脑游戏（这招我常用），以后再有，就两个星期。我同意他的第一条，加上一个星期不可以放学后在playground玩。以后如果再发生任何撒谎的事，我就把跟撒谎相关的事物与他隔绝。
J相对而言，一直是一个好孩子。不是不撒谎，只是很少，并且没有象这一次这么执着。
这次使我再一次思考对于“撒谎”孩子和大人的作为。但还没有答案。
问题一，是否可以容忍一定限度的谎言？特别是那些善意的谎言(white lie)
问题二，到底谎言在孩子心目中是什么概念？严重到什么程度？因为他居然在我教训他的时候“魂游象外”。
问题三，再教导他不撒谎的同时，如何避免他“魔高一丈”？
问题四，发现撒谎了，怎么办？我现在是告诉他，如果不小心撒了谎，要即时纠正。
睡觉的时候，告诉他我认为他的撒谎是一件严重的事，他自己去和神祷告，想想以后怎么办。这小子居然在我说完的时候问我一个毫不相关的英文单词的含义。还说"will back to thinking after that"。把我气得当时让他披上衣服去洗手间站着。
今天一早，告诉我，罚他一个星期不玩电脑游戏（这招我常用），以后再有，就两个星期。我同意他的第一条，加上一个星期不可以放学后在playground玩。以后如果再发生任何撒谎的事，我就把跟撒谎相关的事物与他隔绝。
J相对而言，一直是一个好孩子。不是不撒谎，只是很少，并且没有象这一次这么执着。
这次使我再一次思考对于“撒谎”孩子和大人的作为。但还没有答案。
问题一，是否可以容忍一定限度的谎言？特别是那些善意的谎言(white lie)
问题二，到底谎言在孩子心目中是什么概念？严重到什么程度？因为他居然在我教训他的时候“魂游象外”。
问题三，再教导他不撒谎的同时，如何避免他“魔高一丈”？
问题四，发现撒谎了，怎么办？我现在是告诉他，如果不小心撒了谎，要即时纠正。
早教 序言
早就想写一些有关我们教俩孩子的心得，现在总算开始了。
可能大部分的内容都是关于J的，毕竟他是第一个试验品。而且，J的语言和识字能力比P要好，也使得J更容易教（也可以说，我们不懂得怎么教语言能力相对较弱的P，也可见语言的优势对儿童的成长造成的影响）。
我将尽可能的介绍我们的方法，所用的教材，学习的环境以及其它的因素，和这些对两个孩子的不同效果。但是请所有的读者注意，对小孩的心智和体能的培养只是做父母的一部分的责任，关键的是，要把“爱”的心传承给孩子。没有了爱，只是一个躯壳或者机器而已。
爱是恒久忍耐，又有恩慈；
爱是不嫉妒，
爱是不自夸，
不张狂，
不做害羞的事，
不求自己的益处，
不轻易发怒，
不计算人的恶，
不喜欢不义，
只喜欢真理，
凡事包容、凡事相信、凡事盼望、凡事忍耐，
爱是永不止息。
《新约圣经》哥林多前书13章4-8节
这是一段妈妈的记忆：
“J was a early talker and was very sensitive to numbers, it was very easy and a pleasure to play with him and teach him when he was a baby, he simply absorbed anything we presented to him like a sponge. We taught him how to read Chinese which is his mother tongue when he was 1.5 years old, then taught him how to read English right before he started daycare at almost 3 years old. His day care teacher was very excited to show him to other teachers saying "look this 3 year old boy, he can read almost everything." The daycare put him into Junior kindergarten group when he was supposed to be at the preschool group, then when it was time for him to start J.K, his school teacher put him into SK group, so he repeated SK for 2 years before he went to Grade 1.
J loves sports, and he is a musical child as his violin teacher and his vocal coaching teacher told me, he started taking violin lesson before he turned to 5. When he was 5.5 years old, he was exceptionally accepted by Bach Children's chorus, from this September he will go to choir III group (which is for age 10+) and he enjoys singing very much. J attends Sunday school every week, he was accepted by Grade 1 Sunday school teacher when he was 3 year and 9 months old, they found out he can read bible at that time although he didn't understand quite well.
My husband and I are trying our best to provide him with a loving and caring home environment and hopefully he can be well brought up. His favourite subject is science, but he always complains school is so boring, he said he knew everything before the teacher presented to him. Math is his favourite subject at home but it is his most boring class at school since it is way too easy for him, he finished some grade 4 & 5 math book himself. The public school has mix class, last year he was placed in Grade 1 and 2 mixed class, the teacher found out he was very good at math, she herself went to talk to the principle to let him go to Grade 2 class at math time, but didn't get approved, I said no worried, even the grade 2 math is too easy for him. I heard some gifted children have social problems, while J is a very active easy-going social kid, he easily makes new friends, talks to people every where, and he helped his peers at school all the time. ”
可能大部分的内容都是关于J的，毕竟他是第一个试验品。而且，J的语言和识字能力比P要好，也使得J更容易教（也可以说，我们不懂得怎么教语言能力相对较弱的P，也可见语言的优势对儿童的成长造成的影响）。
我将尽可能的介绍我们的方法，所用的教材，学习的环境以及其它的因素，和这些对两个孩子的不同效果。但是请所有的读者注意，对小孩的心智和体能的培养只是做父母的一部分的责任，关键的是，要把“爱”的心传承给孩子。没有了爱，只是一个躯壳或者机器而已。
爱是恒久忍耐，又有恩慈；
爱是不嫉妒，
爱是不自夸，
不张狂，
不做害羞的事，
不求自己的益处，
不轻易发怒，
不计算人的恶，
不喜欢不义，
只喜欢真理，
凡事包容、凡事相信、凡事盼望、凡事忍耐，
爱是永不止息。
《新约圣经》哥林多前书13章4-8节
这是一段妈妈的记忆：
“J was a early talker and was very sensitive to numbers, it was very easy and a pleasure to play with him and teach him when he was a baby, he simply absorbed anything we presented to him like a sponge. We taught him how to read Chinese which is his mother tongue when he was 1.5 years old, then taught him how to read English right before he started daycare at almost 3 years old. His day care teacher was very excited to show him to other teachers saying "look this 3 year old boy, he can read almost everything." The daycare put him into Junior kindergarten group when he was supposed to be at the preschool group, then when it was time for him to start J.K, his school teacher put him into SK group, so he repeated SK for 2 years before he went to Grade 1.
J loves sports, and he is a musical child as his violin teacher and his vocal coaching teacher told me, he started taking violin lesson before he turned to 5. When he was 5.5 years old, he was exceptionally accepted by Bach Children's chorus, from this September he will go to choir III group (which is for age 10+) and he enjoys singing very much. J attends Sunday school every week, he was accepted by Grade 1 Sunday school teacher when he was 3 year and 9 months old, they found out he can read bible at that time although he didn't understand quite well.
My husband and I are trying our best to provide him with a loving and caring home environment and hopefully he can be well brought up. His favourite subject is science, but he always complains school is so boring, he said he knew everything before the teacher presented to him. Math is his favourite subject at home but it is his most boring class at school since it is way too easy for him, he finished some grade 4 & 5 math book himself. The public school has mix class, last year he was placed in Grade 1 and 2 mixed class, the teacher found out he was very good at math, she herself went to talk to the principle to let him go to Grade 2 class at math time, but didn't get approved, I said no worried, even the grade 2 math is too easy for him. I heard some gifted children have social problems, while J is a very active easy-going social kid, he easily makes new friends, talks to people every where, and he helped his peers at school all the time. ”
2007年10月1日
JP 趣事随记
今天看到邻居搬家，P问“爸爸我们什么时候搬家？”
“你想搬家？”
“不，我不想。”
“那我们就不搬。等你长大了再说。”
“为什么长大了就要搬家啊？”
“你长大了，就会离开爸爸妈妈，自己住了。”
“那我不会煮饭怎么办？”
“你会的，长大了就会。”
。。。。。。
晚上，一边画画，一边说：“爸爸，我想一直和你在一起，不要搬家。”
感动中。
2007
早餐时，哥哥拿食物当玩具，P随即跟上模仿。
我便因此说哥哥：“你看，你是妹妹的榜样。下次妹妹要是做什么不好的事情，我打你的屁股。”
哥哥悻悻然。
P问（一脸的狡猾）：如果哥哥做错了呢？
我心道“好小子，跟我玩”，便说：“打妹妹的屁股。”
“我做错了，打哥哥屁股。哥哥做错了，打爸爸屁股。”她得意的笑着。
2006
“爷爷是老人，爸爸是大人，哥哥是中人，我是小人”
N年前J的版本：“爸爸是大人，你呢？”“我是小人！”自豪地。
J的理想。J有很多的理想。
消防员，持续了很长时间，后来觉得自己不够strong，放弃了。
警察，一次camping，碰到一对二战是从波兰逃出来的老人，说他们不喜欢警察等等。也放弃了。
莫扎特第二，因为他喜欢小提琴和莫扎特，我便这么问他。
"No way, I am just a normal boy. He is the person who touched the heaven."
"I wish one day, I can be a father like you. Has a job and plays with my kids a lot."是该感动呢，还是说他没出息呢:=)
一岁多两岁时，J曾有一问：“爸爸，月亮会不会咬人？”
“不会！”
“为什么不会？”
“。。。。。。”爸爸思考中
“因为他没有嘴巴呀。”自答。
“你想搬家？”
“不，我不想。”
“那我们就不搬。等你长大了再说。”
“为什么长大了就要搬家啊？”
“你长大了，就会离开爸爸妈妈，自己住了。”
“那我不会煮饭怎么办？”
“你会的，长大了就会。”
。。。。。。
晚上，一边画画，一边说：“爸爸，我想一直和你在一起，不要搬家。”
感动中。
2007
早餐时，哥哥拿食物当玩具，P随即跟上模仿。
我便因此说哥哥：“你看，你是妹妹的榜样。下次妹妹要是做什么不好的事情，我打你的屁股。”
哥哥悻悻然。
P问（一脸的狡猾）：如果哥哥做错了呢？
我心道“好小子，跟我玩”，便说：“打妹妹的屁股。”
“我做错了，打哥哥屁股。哥哥做错了，打爸爸屁股。”她得意的笑着。
2006
“爷爷是老人，爸爸是大人，哥哥是中人，我是小人”
N年前J的版本：“爸爸是大人，你呢？”“我是小人！”自豪地。
J的理想。J有很多的理想。
消防员，持续了很长时间，后来觉得自己不够strong，放弃了。
警察，一次camping，碰到一对二战是从波兰逃出来的老人，说他们不喜欢警察等等。也放弃了。
莫扎特第二，因为他喜欢小提琴和莫扎特，我便这么问他。
"No way, I am just a normal boy. He is the person who touched the heaven."
"I wish one day, I can be a father like you. Has a job and plays with my kids a lot."是该感动呢，还是说他没出息呢:=)
一岁多两岁时，J曾有一问：“爸爸，月亮会不会咬人？”
“不会！”
“为什么不会？”
“。。。。。。”爸爸思考中
“因为他没有嘴巴呀。”自答。
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